Imagine hearing noises and sounds around you but it all coming in at the same priority level. You can hear but it is chaotic, messy, scattered, and cluttered. You HEAR things but it is going to take you some time to really concentrate and figure out what is most important in the cacophony. You cannot immediately process or sort thorough all of it to determine what is extraneous and what is truly important.
Your immediate “go to” has to be information that you can see. You rely heavily on that visual information to make sense of the world and those around you.
Pretend for a moment that the person you know who has autism, were deaf. They were completely unable to hear you. What would you do? What would you do differently? You would use gestures, body language, and other visual information to compliment your words or maybe not say anything at all while you provide information visually.
Now, consider that this individual is (a) struggling to prioritize what you say. They are unable or have difficulty figuring out what is important from irrelevant information. Common sense will tell you to simplify your words to just the most salient pieces of information and cut out the extra “fluff,” we often add to fill the silence.
Stop relying on auditory processing and try this today!
For 10 minutes, try using your body, gestures, and written or drawn information to guide or interact with someone you know who has autism. ONLY say the most important/salient words necessary. Then watch how these simple accommodations allow that person to be more genuinely curious about you because you make more sense.