In this book, you will find insight into the autistic mind along with essentials to build relationships. I extend the invitation to get to know autism at a new level. You will learn that it is through seeing autism that you can form bonds. We all wish to be truly seen by those we love, who guide us and nourish us. All of my recommendations are based on current neuroscience studies, developmental research, evidence-based practices, discussions with adults on the autism spectrum, and my thirty-plus years of experience. I have been blessed to have befriended, worked with, and guided more people than I can count who have autism or some variation of it. I am uniquely positioned with my advanced degree in early development and my extensive experience with autistics of all ages to bring to you this guide for establishing the foundations of social engagement for those on the autism spectrum. My wish for you is to better understand autism processing so that you, too, can see the beauty of autism within someone you know.

With gratitude,

Barbara Avila

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“Seeing Autism is full of strategies to build a better relationship with someone with autism, but it’s vastly more. Readers are invited to understand the “beauty and complexity of autism” and are provided an essential lens to allow us to foster the deep connections all humans need and that allow us to be known. Barb Avila brilliantly challenges current ways of thinking when it comes to autism. She walks us through what we need to know and teaches us how to apply that knowledge in meaningful, fun, and practical ways. An essential read for every parent, teacher, or anyone in relationship with someone with autism.”

-Tina Payne Bryson, LCSW, Ph.D., New York Times Bestselling co-author of The Whole-Brain Child & No-Drama Discipline, and author of The Bottom Line for Baby

“The most balanced, insightful, encouraging and inspiring book I have read on Autism. I can’t wait to share its actionable advice with our son, family, friends and support team. This book is a game changer. Finally a book that truely understands people with Autism and shows us how we can empower them to advocate for themselves at any age and developmental stage.”

-Corinna Gilligan, Mother and Business Owner

“As a psychiatric professional and single mother of a teen with autism, I want to go out and buy this book for everyone who ever meets my son! He and I have known Barb since his toddlerhood, and I have done my best to soak up everything I was able to of her ideas and wisdom. Barb’s brilliance, loving support, and creative problem-solving have always shined through, imbuing hope where sometimes I feared there might be none. And in Seeing Autism, she has packed her knowledge and insight all in one place. You will be inspired, excited, and passionate about trying new ways to connect with your partner/friend/child/co-worker with autism. This book is such a gift. Please enjoy!”

-Diane Solomon, Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner, PhD, PMHNP, CNM

“Barbara Avila is more than a teacher or counselor. She’s a connector. In Seeing Autism: Connection through Understanding, Barbara doesn’t just explain autism to us; she shows us what it’s like to live with autism and how to live in heart connection with those who are autistic. 

This book is full of facts and practical advice from the worlds of human development, brain science, and psychology. The information is fascinating and essential. The ideas and suggestions are realistic and practical. But the thing that makes this book truly unique is Barbara’s emphasis on the importance of human relationships and the core needs that autistic people have to be seen and understood.

This book is an invaluable guide for anyone who identifies as autistic, those who believe they may be on the spectrum, and family members or friends of those with autism.”

-Pamela Scott, Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT & Author